Keeping Lines of Communication With Your Ex Girlfriend Open

What is one thing that all relationships need in order to survive? Fun and exciting dates? Definitely nice to keep the relationship feeling new. Respect? Extremely important for both sides, but not necessarily what I was looking for. Love? That will most certainly help but not quite there. So what could it be? Well my friends, I believe that the one thing you need in order for a relationship to survive is simply communication. It's impossible for a relationship to succeed, or survive for that matter, at all if you can't communicate your thoughts and feelings effectively towards each other.

At the moment I happen to be a part of a long distance relationship, so I know just how important it is to be able to communicate with your partner. But this hub isn't to talk about how to have communication in a relationship, but how to use communication to rekindle and rebuild it. Here are five tips I believe should be easy to put into practice that will help push your relationship with your ex girlfriend back on track.

Tip 1. I have written this before and I know it may be very hard to follow, but the best thing you can really do at first is to take some time away from your ex. To open communication you must first cut off communication. Kind of contradictory to the point of this hub.

The reason you want to take time away from you ex girlfriend is because everyone needs space. If your girlfriend just dumped you then something obviously must have gone wrong so you need to give her some time and especially space to sort through her thoughts and feelings.

If you have ever been the dumper then you know how hard (or even annoying) it can be when your ex keeps begging you to come back or won't give you your space. It kind of even makes it easier to say no to them doesn't it? So give your ex her space. Don't give her the chance to say no like that.

Tip 2. The biggest issue when trying to contact your ex girlfriend is to figure out how often to do it and especially when to do it. You don't want to start spamming her inbox, freaking her out, and ending up pushing her farther away. Instead, you want to leave little messages, whether it be on her Facebook wall or a text to her phone, that are easy-going and non-threatening like, "Hey, whats up?" or "How's it going?"

You might be thinking, "How is this going to help win my ex girlfriend back?" Well by leaving her little notes or messages like this it shows her that you still have interest and that if she is still interested she is free to contact you back.

Tip 3. Get a conversation going. Don't try calling her on the phone or seeing her in person just yet. Have a text message conversation, email, or wall-to-wall on Facebook. Try not to get too lovey-dovey with it though. Keep it in a safe area like how their day is going or what they have been up to.

You want to do this so that by the time you see each other in person you won't have that awkward silence and ruin your chances of getting back together with your ex girlfriend right then and there. Keep your conversations at this level until you believe that you're comfortable enough to be able to keep a conversation going in person.

Tip 4. Get her to meet up with you in person. There are many ways you can approach this; depending on your situation. For me, my ex and I were pretty comfortable after talking online for a while so I had no trouble asking her to meet me in person. But you might not have the same luck.

One way to get your ex girlfriend to meet you in person, if they're not comfortable seeing you yet, can be found here. I know the article talks about getting them to answer your call or text but the tip farther down can be helpful in getting your ex girlfriend to meet up with you if they still happen to feel uncomfortable still about meeting you in person.

Tip 5. The last tip I can leave you is just to be patient. You can't change how your ex girlfriend feels about you or return to how your relationship used to be over night. Don't try to force things into happening. Give you and your ex girlfriend time and space to ease back into the relationship.

Remember, these tips are just that, tips. So you don't have to follow them exactly as I say them in black and white. Every relationship is different and thus require different approaches in order to get them to work. But these are some things that have worked for me before in the past so I'm here to share them with you now.

So remember, if you are wondering, "how can I win back my ex girlfriend?": take some time away from her and give her her space; leave little messages for her to show her that it is okay for her to contact you; get a conversation going with her either through text messages or online; meet with her in person; and just be patient. Give your relationship time to rebuild itself naturally without forcing it into a particular direction. Now go get 'em tiger!